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Phoenix Rising,

Out of the ashes we are born into a new life.
A re-birth of body, mind & spirit.


CHECKING THE FUSE BOX




Testing a fuse or circuit breaker needn't be an aerobic exercise.
Instead of jogging between the electrical panel in the basement
and the outlet upstairs, enlist your vacuum cleaner as an assistant.
Plug the vacuum into the suspect outlet with its switch turned on.
When you have restored power to that circuit the vacuum will signal
with its noise.


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PANCAKES EASY TO MAKE I CAN DO THAT

I always have some sort of pancakes in my freezer. They are such a frugal food, made with basic pantry ingredients, they freeze great and can be sweet or savory. I have them for breakfast, lunch, even dinner.

Here are some of my favorite recipes, these are all tried and true:

Blueberry Blueberry Sour Cream Pancakes Recipe #22274
If you like blueberries, this breakfast treat is for you. I am prejudiced but use wild Maine berries. They have that extra “bite”!
by Aroostook
4 servings 12 pancakes
25 min 10 min prep
1 cup sifted flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon sugar
1 egg
1 cup milk
1/2 cup sour cream
2 tablespoons melted butter
1/2 cup floured blueberries

Mix dry ingredients.
Beat together wet ingredients.
Add to dry ingredients and mix well.
Add blueberries last and fold in carefully.



Zucchini Feta Pancakes
4 eggs, separated
4 cups packed shredded zucchini
1 cup finely crumbled feta
1/2 cup minced green onion (I used regular onion)
1 tsp dried mint (omitted, dodn’t have any)
Lots of black peppper
1/3 cup flour
Beat egg whites until stiff.
In bowl, combine remaining ingredients, fold in egg whites.
Fry in oil intil golden and crisp on both sides.
Serve with yogurt or sour cream



Pumpkin Pancakes
2 cups flour
3 tbsp brown sugar
2 tsp baking powder
1 tsp baking soda
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp ginger
1/4 tsp salt
1 1/2 cups skim milk
1 cup pumpkin puree
1 egg
Combine dry ingredients in a bowl. In separate bowl combine all wet ingredients, add to flour mixture, stir gently to combine. Use 1/4 cup batter per pancake, cook on lightly greased griddle or pan until browned on both sides.



Closet Organizing 101
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We all have our addictions. It might be chocolate or mahjong, gardening or competitive baking, bargain hunting at church fairs or playing word games in bars. I am so addicted to the acquisition and wearing of clothes and accessories that I’m just one Hermes scarf shy of needing to attend Clothes Collectors Anonymous. The great thing about being older, however, is that I have learned to downsize and exert some curatorial judgment over my collection. Otherwise, I could become one of those reality TV show people: “Women Who Won’t Give Up Any of the Clothes They Ever Bought and Now Sleep On Top of a 1968 Burnt Orange Velour Jacket, Vest, and…Hot Pants.”

I organize my closets twice a year, once during the early spring and again in the fall, replacing the items of the past season with those for the next. Early September is the time for the return of clothes and accessories of substance. This year I removed the spring and summer clothes, leaving behind only those wonderful things that will take me through the warm days of September but don’t whisper slyly, “Doesn’t she know she shouldn’t wear that after Labor Day?”

I use these twice-yearly closet organizing sessions to examine each article of clothing to see if it has any life left in it, to assess if it’s been worn in the last two years, and to ask some brutal questions. This year the question was, “Do I look good in this fun cotton summer skirt that is four inches above the knees?” I had six such skirts that I had not worn at all this season. That was a clue. I tried on each one and asked the mirror, which did not say that if I wore these short skirts I would be the fairest of them all, so I gave them away. I will still wear short skirts with black tights and flat shoes in the fall and winter because this is a flattering look for my figure. But the knee cellulite revealed by short summer skirts is just not my idea of attractive…for me.

Once I had gone through my summer wardrobe, I turned to my fall and winter garments. I evaluated each piece carefully and wound up parting with two pairs of pants and one outdated Akris suit in navy that I had bought in an emergency but was never quite right. (The jacket was always an unflattering length and now seemed even more so. I disappeared in it: It wore me!) What remained was steamed and hung on my new matching hangers. My apartment has two closet systems designed by Shari Markbreiter (who has shared with us her magnificent transformation of her own bedroom) to support my addiction to clothes, shoes, hats, purses, gloves, fans, and this year, parasols. They allow me to find everything! There are places for blouses of the same color, sweaters of the same shade, skirts go together, suits hang with their coordinating blouse or top under the jacket, and there are two large areas for longer pants and dresses.

I put the summer shoes in Shari’s clear plastic stackable boxes that allow me to see what’s inside, and transferred them to the upstairs closets, with the fall and winter shoes. Summer clutches and handbags were stuffed so they would keep their shape and placed into cloth bags to keep them safe, then replaced with the fall and winter handbags. Capes that are wonderful for fall when a coat is too much and a sweater too little were found, steamed, and hung in the coat closet along with a magical Prada coat that, with its mossy green and brown plaid fabric and its wonderful portrait neckline, is good for spring and fall. Such beautiful fabric, such incredible design. Each year when I find it I am as thrilled as I was the day I received it as a present.

I wonder if I am the only woman who feels as if she is shopping in her closet as she sorts through her off-season clothes? I consciously greet many of the outfits for the new season as old friends with whom I have had some great times. Last year I took a day off from work and, with two girlfriends, visited Julianne’s, a charming boutique in Port Washington, NY, that’s owned by Julieann Orso. We arrived as winter clothes were on sale and the shop was full of resort wear. It was one of those days where everything I tried on was just the right fit and available at a discount. I bought the most exquisite black glove leather skirt that is full and gored, a Calvin Klein gray shantung dress with an architectural element in the back that not many women would wear but was perfect for the drama queen, a black wool dinner dress with incredible details, and a stretchy knitted-fur cowl accessory that dresses up many of my simple winter frocks. When I found them again, I remembered the road trip to Juliann’s and how much fun I had with my friends doing something that was so out of character for me. I will never wear these clothes without the memories of that day.

It took me, with assistance, four hours to make my closets easy to navigate. At the end of the afternoon, I knew that I was organized for the New Year, which for me begins in September. After all the work, I had that cozy feeling that I have everything I need to start school again: pencil box, erasers, crayons, ruler, note books, magic markers, and many new books to read. Why isn’t September everyone’s favourite month?

GIVING YOUR DOG A PEDICURE

Pedicure: do it at home!

If the pitter-pat of dog feet is sounding more like clickety-clack at your house, it's time for a trim. Indoor pets don't wear down their nails naturally, so a pedicure every two weeks is a healthy indulgence that will keep your dog comfortable.

Step 1 Consider investing in nail clippers specially contoured for dogs.

Step 2 Choose a spot for your dog's pedicure that's quiet, with few distractions and no escape routes.

Step 3 If your dog is unaccustomed to nail trimming, try starting with a gentle paw massage, tenderly rubbing and manipulating your dog's toes, much like a luxurious foot rub.

Step 4 If possible, trim nails after a bath when nails are softer.

Step 5 Trimming your dog's nails can be a little tricky at first. If you trim too deep and hit a vein, your dog will bleed. Plus, it hurts, like when you break a nail into the "quick". That's the pink part where the blood vessels reside. So before you begin, make sure you have styptic powder, cornstarch or a bar of soft soap to stop any bleeding.

Step 6 Start by holding your dog's foot and gently pushing down with your thumb at the base of each nail. This will cause the nail to extend slightly, making it easier for you to see. Your goal should be to trim each nail at a 45-degree angle away from the dog. If you've cut the nail at the ideal angle, the newly trimmed nail should be flush with the floor when the dog walks.

Step 7 If your dog has clear nails, trim just outside the "quick" area.

Step 8 If your dog has dark nails, it's almost impossible to determine where the "quick" begins. It may be wiser to snip away only small amounts of nail at weekly sessions until nails are at their proper length, then maintain with a trim every two weeks.

Step 9 If necessary, at first, break the pedicure into two or four sessions-front paws, then back paws, or even one paw at a time.

Step 10 Always talk to your dog in reassuring tones as you trim, praising him for staying calm.

Step 11 If your dog has dewclaws (a dewclaw is a fifth claw on the inside of the leg, usually on the front legs), those should be trimmed just like the other nails.

Step 12 Always end with lavish praise and a treat. Make pedicure time something your dog may actually start looking forward to.

Step 13 Remember, a pedicure isn't just a luxury. It could actually prevent your dog from getting tangled up in something like carpeting, leading to an injury that could cause infection or the loss of a nail.